Fat Friends, Pints and Gallons.

The concept of being or having a "fat friend" is a concept that me and my momma devised from sourcing our own personal experiences and hearing numerous anecdotes from friends and peers. However it has to be noted that being a "fat friend" has nothing to do with weight, although sometimes this is the targeted quality, it's any insecurity or abnormality that you might have. This characteristic is then noted and you're seen as a target to be invested in for friendship. All because you won't be seen as competition for attention from prospective men/women, leaving all of the attention on your so called "friend" for them to enjoy.
Although at first look this theory can look quite Darwinian and as if it's 'survival of the fittest,' and very predator and prey. As harsh as this seems, it's the harsh reality of how some friendships are formed in the modern world by modern people. Have you ever left your friend at the bar with a promise that you'll be five minutes with the guy you just met and not returned within twenty? or have you been the person left at the bar? This is an example of having/being a fat friend and a perfect example of how they are used without a second thought. I find this so frustrating as women have stood and depended upon each other for strength as they fought for their gender to be noticed and now they are fighting each other and destroying each other in order to get themselves noticed. It's quite sad really as it feels as if we are almost regressing when this is the time for us to be progressing without a need for fat friends to enable personal gains.
 

A fat friend is a person who would sacrifice their own attention from the only guy who's given them a second look all night in order to search the nine rooms of the club to find the person who smiled at their friend in the queue outside. These people are the gallon people whilst the friends who use them for their advantage are merely pints. Bishop T.D Jakes speaks of the concept of Pints and Gallons in an audience with Oprah. "When you are a 10-gallon person and you want love, you want it on a 10-gallon level," he says. "But if you fool around and hook up with a pint person, they could be giving you all that they have -- sincerely giving you everything, but it doesn't fill you up, because you're bigger than that." Does a pint ever truly quench your thirst? Surely not, you're always left wanting a little bit more.

So don't settle for being half quenched, flood yourself with gallon people and hydrate and nurture your soul fat friends.

Love Liv x